Only Child Caregiver
by Karen Holdridge
(Ellicott City, MD)
I am currently the only caregiver for my mom who has been sick since September with double pneumonia and is 84 years old. I am trying to hold down a full time job and I am currently overwhelmed with all of the doctors appointments and errands I have to run for my mom. I spend all day worrying about her and if she's going to have a good day or bad. When I'm at home with her, I'm constantly worried I will start to hear her crying again. I have been online reading other caregivers stories and feel very fortunate that my story is not as dire as their situations. I have been looking for a support group but can't seem to find one that is at night and not for alzheimers (although she is exhibiting signs of this too). Even though I'm living in a fairly populated area, I would like to find a person to share with online. I feel like I'm taking all of the steps I can to get help but feel like talking with someone similar or who knows how to deal with the stress, worrying and anxiety, it would help. My health is taking a toll but there is no way I can find time to go to the doctor for anything but the absolutely necessary visits like mammo and scheduled shots. Is there anyone out there who wishes to share?
Reply from Sound-Mind.org
No doubt what you are dealing with brings great amount of stress and anxiety. The issues of putting yourself last, especially your own physical and mental health is not good. I know you are aware of this already and that is why you are reaching out.
There are a couple websites that you might find very helpful - such as the Eldercare Locator, which is a public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging that will connect you to services & support.
Also, I know you are looking mainly for online support and I think that the ElderCare Online Caregiver Support Network might just be exactly what you are looking for.
I do wish you all the best as you work hard to care for your parent and anytime you feel the stress & anxiety taking over, please feel free to share here for support and encouragement! Take Care!
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