Positive Self Talk
No matter what your personal struggle is, positive self talk plays an important role in helping to guide you through the challenges in your life.
- Are you tense?
- Are you worried or anxious?
- Are you depressed or angry?
- Do you have a hard time reaching your goals?
- Do you struggle with low self esteem or self confidence?
- Are you overweight or underweight?
- Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed?
Perhaps you can identify with something listed here or perhaps it may be something else. Either way, you can easily customize your own self talk to be more encouraging and supportive to fit your circumstance.
Believe it or not, how you talk to yourself will determine how successful you will be at overcoming your personal challenge. No matter what, you can make the choice to deliberately change your unproductive, unhealthy, negative thinking to positive self talk. You and you alone hold the power inside to change.
Be sure to read, The truth about your self talk.
So how do you reprogram your mind?
The brain will believe whatever you tell it most. Therefore, you must spend time each day repeating the new, positive self talk to yourself. It is only through repetition that your brain will adopt it's new reprogramming. Then and only then, will you begin to change the "autopilot of your brain" to think these new thoughts automatically.
You must be willing to work hard. If you do not repeat your new positive self talk enough, your old automatic thoughts will persist. Like they say, "old habits are hard to break" and that includes your old ways of thinking.
I encourage you to keep pushing forward until you begin to feel differently and you notice the changes taking place. Once you notice these changes taking place, don't stop! Keep going! Even by simply repeating your new, positive self talk to yourself 15 minutes per day, twice a day for a few weeks will make an amazing difference in how you think and feel.
Understanding how to talk to yourself properly can be difficult. If you don't know what to say to yourself, I highly recommend Shad Helmstetter's book, What to Say When you Talk To Yourself
STEP 1: Identify Your Thoughts
Answer these questions below to help you identify negative and anxiety producing thoughts. Write them down on paper so you can keep track of them. You cannot move onto the next step without knowing what your thoughts are and can look at them on paper. This is very important!
- What do you think about yourself?
- What do you think will happen?
- What do you think about the situation?
- How do you think you will handle the situation?
- What do you see in your mind when you think about your situation?
STEP 2: Challenge Your Thoughts
Look at the thoughts you wrote down from step 1. Ask yourself the following questions about those thoughts. Then write down the answers on a new piece of paper. Don't be lazy! It takes work to get better!
- What is the evidence for what you fear? Is there any proof?
- How likely is what you fear actually going to happen?
- What is the worst possible thing that could realistically happen? Be honest with yourself!
- What alternatives are there for a worst case scenario?
- How helpful is the way you are thinking?
STEP 3: Replace Your Thoughts
Look at your original thoughts from step 1. You need to go over those thoughts and take the time to write replacement thoughts that are realistic, positive, and hopeful. Sometimes finding new positive self talk can take a little while and requires patience. This skill cannot work effectively without using it consistently, so do not give up!
STEP 4: Repeat Your New, Positive Self-Talk
Repetition is absolutely necessary in order for positive self talk to stick! It takes a lot of time for your body to catch up with your mind. In other words, it takes a lot of effort and hard work repeating positive self talk before you actually feel the positive changes within your body . If you work hard and you are faithful with practice, you will find your body eventually feeling the effects of your new thoughts which means less and less bothersome body symptoms.
Sorry, but you cannot just do the above steps once and be done with it. It takes practice...lots and lots of practice. So how often do you have to do these steps? You will have to do them as many times as it takes to create new habits of thinking. For everyone the amount may be different, so it's important that you don't compare yourself to others and their recovery experience. Repetition is absolutely necessary if you want to find recovery from anxiety or depression.
The truth is that you get to choose which thoughts you want to think! Why not choose positive thoughts? Our bodies have one job when it comes to the mind/body connection and that is to respond to those thoughts. Our bodies cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is imagined therefore your body will feel the effects of whatever it is you are telling yourself.
Another Helpful Method...
Another helpful method that will help get you started is to Write down at least 25 positive, truthful statements in the present tense, as if it has already happened. Think of your truthful statements as statements that could be true if you only believed them to be true.
Try starting each one of your sentences with:
- I am...
- I never...
- I no longer...instead I...
- I like...
- I do not...
Not all your statements have to begin with these. They are just examples you can use to practice with. Remember, nothing here in written in stone!
Then repeat these positive self talk statements to yourself for 15 minutes, twice per day. Perhaps once in the morning before you begin your day and once at the end before you go to bed.
Either way, you will be reprogramming your mind to think the thoughts you choose to think, which will be deliberate thoughts! Remember, you get to choose the thoughts you want to think. You are in control, as long as you want to be.
Need More Help?
For extra help working with positive self talk, the information below will be sure to help you out! What are you waiting for? It's time to get to work! :)
- Self Talk for Worry
- Self Talk for Stress
- Self Talk for Anxiety and Panic
- Self Talk for Depression
- Self Talk for Self Confidence
- Self Talk for Quitting Smoking
- Self Talk for Weight Loss
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Need Even More Help??
Positive self talk can go one step further! If you find repeating self talk difficult and you are pressed for time, you can record these statements into a recorder, such as the recorder on your cell phone, so you can simply listen to the statements instead. The brain will accept this method just as effectively, if not more effective, as if you were speaking to yourself aloud.
Interested in Free Pre-Recorded MP3's? Then be sure to visit Self Talk MP3 Downloads
Additional Helpful Resources for Positive Self Talk
Positive Thinking Principles
has a wealth of information exploring the power of your thoughts. The site explores all sorts of aspects of positive thinking, from affirmations and why they do and don't work, to beliefs and how they impact what you can create in your life.