Questions that Can Change your Life
Our emotional wellness greatly effects our quality of life. There are so many words used to describe human emotions. There are so many that in order to list them all here, it would be almost impossible. Common emotions like happiness, sadness, worry, frustration, jealousy, loneliness, excitement, anger, and contentment are emotions that we have all experienced at one point or another. Good emotional health is important. It has an enormous effect on our quality of life.
Our emotions are always based on the things we tell ourselves on a daily basis and how we perceive life and the events that happen. Much of what we feel has everything to do with the thoughts that come in and out of our minds. Emotions are almost always positive or negative depending on our experience.
One amazing discovery for me was when I realized that I had full control over my own emotions. I realized my own emotional wellness was my responsibility. For so long I believed that if I was feeling something then it must be true. We all like to think that we can't help it or that we can't change things because that's just how we are. Problem with this is that people end up making decisions in life based on how they feel. When those feelings are negative and based on stress, anxiety or depression, people end up making decisions that are based on misbeliefs. Misbeliefs need to be changed! We all need to learn that we all have a choice when it comes to how we will react to life situations.
So often we accept the first emotion that comes. It is important when struggling with anxiety or depression to ask ourselves some very important questions before reacting in a way that will produce more unwanted emotions, such as more stress, anxiety and depression.
Our reactions to life's stressful events always determine just how much stress we will feel. Therefore it's important to take the time to do an emotional assessment in order to find an appropriate reaction. Remember, your emotional wellness is extremely important.
Some Important questions we can ask ourselves are:
How am I feeling? - Recognize the negative feelings and emotions that surface. Give them a name!
Why am I feeling this way? - Try to give yourself a clear answer. If you can't find a reason for your negative emotion then it may take some work to find the answer. I would encourage you to keep track of your internal self-talk. You can do this by journaling in a notebook, blogging online, or simply just writing down the thoughts that come to your mind no matter what they are. If you still cannot find a reason why you are feeling the way you do, please don't stress over it. Instead accept how you feel and begin repeating positive truths to yourself.
Is what I am feeling based on absolute truth? - If the answer is NO then your feelings are based solely on imagination! Your emotional wellness is worth more than any negative imagination you would have. Don't believe the lies you tell yourself.
If what you are feeling is based on imagination (assumptions, misbeliefs, what if's) then it's time to step up and begin to tell yourself the truth. To do this you begin by making a list of truths in your life and you repeat these truths to yourself over and over again until you begin to believe those truths.
If what you are feeling is based on truth, such as an actual event like the loss of a loved one, illness, divorce, job loss, or any other negative life event, it is extremely important not to deny yourself proper emotions. Our emotional wellness is important and feeling emotions at the proper time is important to your health. At the same time it is important to keep these emotions in control and in proper perspective. It is vital to your emotional wellness and health to take the time to encourage yourself and remind yourself that you won't always feel this way. Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you are feeling, but only for a time. Then realize that you can't stay there forever. Tell yourself the truth always. Remind yourself that "this too shall pass" and that you will be okay. Be optimistic about life and make the choice to believe that just as seasons change...life changes. The sun will shine again! Being positive helps encourage your emotional wellness to be healthy.
Emotional wellness contributes to a healthy body!